In response to a heartfelt post (shown below), I would like to tell a story about an autistic young girl from Bronx, New York.
This 11 year old considered herself to be the same as everyone else. Kids would sit with her during lunch. She aced every spelling test. Whenever someone had trouble with spelling a word, they would go to her for assistance.
This kid seemed be a “normal,” functional 11 year old. But, on the inside, she had a secret that she could not put into words. She was being taunted by other kids. There were days where a classmate would call her “fat.” This made her feel worthless and unwanted, but she had no clue how to show it. Until one night–She went to bed on the brink of tears.
That night, the girl was in sync with her emotions. She was able to let her agony out with no hesitation. She knew why she was hurt as well. For a child on the autism spectrum, this is an enormous milestone. For the first time in her life, she was able to get in touch with her feelings. Before all of this, she had no idea that kind of hurt existed. She was completely oblivious to her emotions.
As far as recognition of other people’s emotions, that had to be learned. She was only aware of her struggles with expressing her own emotions. Building empathy was like putting together a puzzle. It took her years to learn.
Who is this little girl? That little girl is ME.
Hi. I’m Veronica Simmons. I’m now a 32 year old server (at a retirement home) with aspirations of becoming a freelance writer. I would like to tell you that autistic children will eventually get in sync with their emotions. The good news: They are extremely aware of their feelings. They are very much aware of their tears when they come. They are aware of their meltdowns and have no idea what to do to stop them. As these precious children grow, their emotions and body language will come together like two magnets. Their school years will come with many challenges. However, with a strong support system (and God Himself), getting through it is 100% possible. In fact, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE
The reality of how difficult emotions are for my girl. ❤ Does she feel them? Understand them? Know the physical sensations they provoke? She knows the words, but does she know what they mean? She doesn’t show them on her face, or through her body language, I wonder if she recognises them in us? Is […]— Our Autism Blog